I think the opposite.
Time management is self love. It helps us honor ourselves, and gives us freedom. It opens us up to be able to focus time and energy on all the spontaneous and creative things we love to do.
There is no better time than now to learn this.
If you think about the month of December, there will be many things pulling at your attention and asking for your time. Today is the perfect day to decide what you will say yes to, and what you will say no to.
Let’s start by setting aside an hour of focused time for you to think about December. Just one distraction free hour.
Start the hour by creating a “want to do” list. This is your holiday wish list.
What do you want to do with your days? Do you want to, walk, nap, have alone time, together time? Have some free time, great friend time, creative time. Finish that work project on time. What about getting to bed on time? Exercise. Have a party. Make an amazing meal.
What else? What would make this month an ideal December for you?
Next, Put those things on your calendar for specific days and times. Decide how long each will take. Do you want all of Saturday to be free time? Ok awesome. Put it on the calendar for the whole day.
Now that your ideal things are on your calendar, I want you to protect that time as firmly as you would your most important appointment. Seriously. If someone comes to you with a request “can you do the thing on Saturday?”
This is what you will say; “No, I’m sorry I have another commitment at that time”.
Is your mind coming up with reasons why you can’t protect that “want to” time?
That’s common, and it’s not a problem.
Your mind is just pointing out to you the other things you want to do, such as complete that other work project; attend the school holiday concert; get the school holiday concert outfits; finish the holiday shopping; get the food; clean the house; host the party; and very often… it is to do the thing to please another person….
You are ambitious and you want to do it all! You want others to be happy with you. If you truly want to do it, then block the time and commit to it with joy and energy. Go ahead and put it on your calendar. Decide where it fits.
But first: ask yourself. Is this something you feel like you “should” say yes to, but deep down you really want to say “no”? Be honest with yourself about that. It’s important.
If you want to say “no”, what does a “no” open you up to being able to do on your remaining “want to” list? (Free time? Volunteer time?)
I hear you saying “I can’t say no” and “If I say no that person will be so upset with me!”
Your right, If you say no, someone might be disappointed. You won’t have pleased the person. But if you say yes when you mean no, will YOU be unhappy or disappointed? Is that okay with you?
You get to decide. Every minute of every day is 100% yours to decide how to spend. And when you are intentional about it, you will do many more of your “want to’s”.
That is what I love about time management.
You get clear on what you will say yes to and what you will say no to. You will honor what you say yes to, and you will have a very positive energy about it. You will fall into bed at the end of the day happy and tired from the fun things you accomplished.
And when you say no when you mean no, it might be hard. But being honest with yourself and others will take your confidence to a whole new level. It will ultimately increase your energy for the “want to’s” that you’ve said yes to.
Have a joyful and relaxed December. Go and do all the things you want to this month.