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Week 6 – Happy first week of February!

During the month of January, you created your goals, and you now have the rest of the year to make them happen. So, in February, we will discuss time so that you can complete your goals and feel good about how you spend each day.

I love the simplicity of time.

What is the time exactly?

I think that time is a concept created by humans based on what we have learned about space. AND we treat it like it’s a lot more than that.

Humans constructed time from space.

  • When the earth travels around the sun, we call that a year
  • We divide a year by 12 and call those months
  • When the earth rotates once, we call that a day
  • And we group 7 days together and call it a week
  • Then, we divide days based on the sun’s position in the sky. When the sun is at its highest, that’s noon or 12 o’clock. 12 hours later, it’s midnight
  • Then we divide days by 24, and those are hours
  • Divide an hour by 60, and you get minutes, and divide minutes by 60 to get seconds. Why 60? Does anyone know? I don’t

In these terms, time is incredibly simple. 

  • Segmented
  • Predictable
  • Knowable
  • Plannable
  • Consistent
  • Rhythmic🥁

Time can’t be controlled, but we worry so much about trying to control it.

When you look at what time really is, you can see that it is not controllable, and that’s where we find ourselves in a struggle.

Every day, someone says, “I don’t have enough time.”

We often feel like we need more time.

And I’ve coached many individuals who want to manage their time better.

We worry that we are going to run out of time.

There are hundreds and hundreds of books about time management.

But, the rhythm of time can’t be controlled or managed.

Despite what you read in books or see in the movies (Back to the Future). We can’t change the natural order of time, make it go backward, make more of it, or get it to go faster or slower (may I have a tardis, please?) 

When it comes to what we are worrying about, time is not the issue. 

The issue is that we are not good at using our time doing the things that are important.

We think having more time is the answer to being able to “keep up”, but it’s not.

I used to think that if I had more time, I would be able to keep my house neat, do all the laundry, and make sure the dishes were always clean. The reason those things weren’t done was because I didn’t have enough time. Right?

Then came COVID-19, and I was one of the lucky ones who could work from home. Working at home eliminated my daily commute, adding five hours of “extra time” to my week.

SURELY, with five hours of extra time a week, I would keep my house neat, do the laundry, and do the dishes. Right? 

Nope. 

I learned that the issue wasn’t that I needed more time. The issue was that I spent time doing other things and avoided those tasks I disliked. Subconsciously I decided not to spend any time on them. 

(Not to worry. I do clean sometimes, and I have help so the house gets taken care of)

So yes, the February theme is time, but it won’t really be about time. It will be about what you do with your time.

Actually, it will be about how you feel about what you do with your time.

Because that’s what’s important.

Let’s start exploring time by creating awareness

When you are aware of how you feel about how you are using your time, it will significantly change what you do with your ticking seconds.

You don’t need to know how to get more of it or manage it. Instead, learn how to do things that you are proud to spend your time doing. You can learn to recognize that doing things that make you proud is often the most important thing.

And the most important thing will be related to your current needs. 

If you aren’t familiar with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, read more about it here. It’s a beautiful description of what we need as humans, and looking at these needs is an excellent way to know what you want to spend your time on.

If you don’t have your basic needs met, such as food and shelter, you probably will feel most proud of yourself when you spend time doing something that gets you those things. 

Once you have met your basic needs, you can look at spending time on the next human need.

So, this week, I have two homework assignments for you.

First, look at Maslow’s hierarchy and identify which needs want your attention right now. Do the goals you identified in January help you fulfill your most pressing needs? If not, are there different goals you want to focus on first? Reflect on that. 

Next, Study how you use your time. It can be very enlightening. So grab a piece of paper and pencil and try to capture how you use your time each day this week. Don’t try to change how you normally live. Instead, I just want you to become aware of how you spend your time.

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P.S.

Here is how my goals are going.

Walking: How often did ride the stationary bike? – 4 out of the last 7 days. I had a mild cold this week, so I prioritized rest. 

One-on-One Fun: Did I have one-on-one fun with my family this week? Not really. I was pretty sniffly, so it wasn’t much fun. 

Hustle or anti-hustle? This week, 4 of 7 days, did not feel frantic. I was productive, but the cold made it feel like everything was just a little harder, and I overslept a few days, so I started feeling rushed.

Reading? I’ve finished Stamped From the Beginning by Ibram X. Kendi! This was a thought-provoking study of the history of racism. It took me a while to get through it because it really made me think. I do recommend reading it. Next, I’ve switched from non-fiction to easier fiction, “Invisible – Ivy Malone Mystery Series #1”)