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Welcome to April.

I’m so excited to talk about my pets this week.

We have a mini-zoo at home – two dogs, three cats, and six egg-laying chickens.


I love them all. I call our third cat our “accidental” cat. I adore him. We caught him as a starving stray in our woods, and I was adamant that we would get him healthy and help him put on some weight, but we were NOT going to keep him. Then, I was the first one to say he could stay. I mean. He cuddled with me! Can you blame me? (For pictures, subscribe to my newsletter by email here)

It’s important to us that our animals are well cared for.

So, going on vacation is a little more complicated than if we didn’t have our mini-zoo. It requires extra planning.

Luckily, we’re blessed to have neighbors who have always been happy to help. They love our pets as their own, and they never ask for anything in return. It’s the perfect setup. We ask them to help care for the animals, and they help. We return the favor for their furry friend. It’s a win-win in the neighborhood.

But here’s the crazy part: I dread asking them. Every. single. time. Why? I don’t want to be a bother.

Instead, when we go on vacation, I usually reach for my phone to call our dog walker and pay $75 a day for her to come to the house. And guess what? I also cringe at the thought of bothering her, even though we’re paying her! I feel like I must be an inconvenience to her.

Our third option is calling the vet to use their boarding. They take great care of our animals there, but our home-body older dog, Hunter, gets so stressed during his stay that he often gets sick, and we have to take him back to the vet again a few days after we get home. He’s an anxious dog. It’s not the Kennels fault.

The fact that our dog is stressed at the kennel motivates me to choose the neighbor or dog walker even though I don’t like calling them for help.

My reluctance to ask for help isn’t limited to pet care; it seeps into every facet of my life.

I desire independence, need to solve problems on my own, and want to prove myself capable. When I ask for help, I worry that I’ll be perceived as a burden, an inconvenience, or needy, so I dread it.


At work, I cannot be successful without the help of others.

I lead a team, and so it’s literally my job to get help from others. Ironic, isn’t it?

I have been told in performance reviews, β€œDon’t hesitate to ask for help sooner.” I’ve also been asked, β€œWhy didn’t you ask for help?”

Over the years, I have worked with hundreds of people and have learned that the tendency to avoid asking for help is an extremely common problem.

I have also learned that if you can get good at asking for help from the right people, in the right way, at the right time, with the right things, then it will demonstrate how capable you are, show your independence, and prove that you can complete work independently:

Asking for help proves the opposite of what you worry about when you ask.

So this month, I will talk about getting help when needed.

We’ll touch on…

  • WHO to ask for help.
  • HOW to ask for help.
  • WHEN to ask for help.
  • And WHAT to get help with.

Meanwhile, I’d love to hear from you. Send me a DM, and let me know what one thing on your to-do list is worrying you right now (aka, something you could probably use help with).

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