Stop Being Frantic This Holiday

Right now, rushing seems to be a regular part of every day. People are rushing to do holiday shopping, school, work, and home management. We run through meals and conversations. I have a habit of rushing from task to task. I rush to read email and then quickly skim...

Active Gratitude

In the United States, this is a week where many of us are reminded of gratitude. On Thursday we will celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday. It is a holiday full of tradition and community. Many come together to share a meal and celebration. In celebration, I want to...

Go ahead! Get your hopes up!

“Don’t get your hopes up.” is well-intentioned advice designed to protect you from disappointment. You:  “I hope I hear back on that job application.” Them:  “Don’t get your hopes up in case you don’t hear back.”...

Do you say, “They should” and call it a boundary?

What is a boundary?  From Merriam Webster Definition of boundary: Something that indicates or fixes a limit or extent. Many of us think that trying to limit how someone else should behave when they are around you is setting a boundary.  You...

Perfect Mistakes

From the Oxford dictionary: Perfectionist:  a person who refuses to accept any standard short of perfection. The definition of perfectionist implies that your life is perfect if you are a perfectionist.  That is not the case.  Perfectionists are often the worst...

Gratitude, and what we want.

Lets take some time to consider our wants.  Wants can be as simple as an urge, “I want that cookie”.   Or they can be deep and meaningful such as “I want life to have purpose”.  You know that humans are wired to have wants,...

Why “Just do what you love” can be bad advice.

Do you find yourself feeling discouraged when you hear. “Do what your passionate about, and you will never work a day in your life”. It seems like such well meaning and great advice. Unfortunately that advice can create a belief that we are somehow doing...

Mental Health Day – Touch the tent

Today is international mental health day.  In this article I will talk to you about the importance of taking care of your mental health. Don’t know where to turn?  The National Mental Health Hotline is a good place to start.National Mental Health Hotline |...

Be happier. allow unhappiness.

If you spend time on social media, watching commercials, or even reading self help books, it is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we are supposed to be happy all the time, and that something is wrong if we’re not. But folks, we are human. We are not...

Stand out from the back of the room. (Introvert power)

One of my favorite ways to describe the difference between an extrovert and an introvert is related to a person’s communication style and approach to problem solving. Someone who is generally an extrovert will talk to think, and an introvert will think to talk....

Moving Forward from Stuck

I want you to think of a goal you have, or that your boss has given you, or that you think you should do, which you are stuck on. Just pick one. Are you thinking “this is impossible”, “I don’t know how to get started”, “I’ve...

The Word Should

“Should” seems like such a helpful word. We say it to try to motivate ourselves, or to express some hope of success or improvement. But it’s a sneaky little word. should I should be cleaning the houseI should get up and exerciseIt should workThat...

Happy Labor Day

From the department of labor “Labor Day is an annual celebration of the social and economic achievements of American workers. The holiday is rooted in the late nineteenth century, when labor activists pushed for a federal holiday to recognize the many...

Work Hard vs. Work Well

You know the value of hard work. Everyone tells you working hard is what you want and need to do. They’re not wrong. I don’t always do it. “Work hard to get what you want.””Work hard or you wont succeed.””Wow he is a really...

Finding inspiration

Something bothers me when people talk about inspiration. I hear complaints.  “I just can’t find inspiration”, “This job is not inspiring”, “They do good work but they’re just not inspired”, “They would do better if they felt...

Choices – And the Urge To Work

Did you know that we are conditioned to overwork by being rewarded for it?  Did you ever get praise for working late, or through a weekend?  It can be very rewarding.  Those rewards increase our desire to repeat the work.  We work, we are rewarded...

Set Schedule Boundaries

Many of us who do corporate work, have a lot of autonomy in our work schedule.  For example, In my last job, I was told that I could flex my schedule around standard core hours.  I shouldn’t start my day after 9AM, and I needed to make sure I was available...

Does your mind relax during your downtime?

Over-workers aren’t usually good at downtime. When we do take downtime, we spend the time thinking about the things we “should” be doing instead. Last week, I suggested you pay closer attention to what you were thinking about during your planned...

Do this exercise, and let go of worrying about work

The Power of Self-Awareness How did it go last week when you claimed a little downtime? Did you pick a little free time and claim it for your own?  Good. For. You. It’s more important than you know to make your own free time a priority.  Even if the amount...

Do you have the downtime you want?

Lets talk about downtime.  Do you think you can take all the downtime you want?I know that can feel impossible.  You might be thinking, “My schedule is already packed full!  I have so many commitments, I can’t have the downtime I want without declining or...

Happy Anniversary

It’s hard for me to believe this this is my 52nd post. That means I have published a post a week for a full year. I’ve shocked myself with how easy it was to stay consistent. Happy anniversary to “Inspired Leader Monday Motivations.” Why do I...

Service and Sacrifice

On Memorial day, I write about service,  sacrifice and gratitude. I respect those who live in service to others.  I appreciate all who have sacrificed for their community and country. No one who joins the U.S. forces does so selfishly.  Their action has...

Thoughts

Hello my dears. What are you thinking about today?  The coolest thing about humans is that we can think about what we are thinking about.You are doing it right now.  Why?  Because I asked you “What you are thinking about?” Hundreds of toddlers:  Your...

Interruptions

Interruptions “I LOVE being interrupted”, said no one ever!   This article contains tips for handling seven common types of interruptions.  Which interruptions impact you most?  Take a second and rank the following interruption types from 1-highest impact...

Stop overworking guide available

Over the last several weeks, I have published the below series of articles focused on the problem of overworking. Are you Overworking?Are you overworking because of email?Is it working, overworking, or overwhelming?Overworking is reacting to an urge.How much time do...

Making decisions will reduce your decision fatigue.

When we put off making decisions, we are working harder than we need to.   Today I want to tell you three things.  First, the simple definition of decision. Second, I’ll discuss the concept of decision fatigue, and Third, I’ll blow your mind and tell you that...

We are bad at estimating and so we overwork

Let’s continue exploring overworking:  Over the last four weeks, I’ve defined overworking, talked about email, the action of overwhelming,  and wastefully lamenting being busy. Now I’ll tell you how bad we are at estimating our work. I’ll show you...

How much time do you lose talking about being busy?

How much time do you spend each day thinking about, worrying about, talking about or planning for being ,busy overworking, and not having enough time? I suspect it’s more than you think. It can actually cause us to lose up to 2 hours of time each day.  How?...

Overworking is reacting to an urge.

Overworking is reacting to an urge. Most of us who are overworking are doing so because we have established a habit of rewarding the urge to work.  Our habit of overworking is self-created by both classical conditioning, and operant conditioning:  Both are...

Is it working, overworking, or overwhelming?

Today I’m going to dive into overwhelm with you.  We will explore the difference between working, overworking, and overwhelming.  Most of us think that overwhelm is the same thing as overwork.  It’s not. Overworking and overwhelming are different. It is possible...

Are you overworking because of email?

I have a love hate relationship with email. Email is easy to send and doesn’t require you to find a common time to talk to someone.  It is an easy way to ask for something “without bothering people”.  They can respond at their own...

Are you Overworking?

Over the next few weeks I will focus on the problem of overworking.  There is a lot to unpack for this problem that is impacting so many of us right now. I’ll share it a little at a time. Today, lets define overworking; Definition of overwork transitive...

Leadership lessons from Horses

One of the things about being a leader for several years, is that I have started to see leadership lessons in everything. Books I read; Friends I have; T.V. and movies I watch. Music I listen to. Pets I take care of. Hobbies I participate in. I am always seeing...

When something sucks

You already know that sometimes life is hard. Things happen that are awful. And, wow, the last few years and last week reminded us of that. There have been lots of circumstances beyond our control. COVID. Wild fires. Floods. Hurricanes. Tornados. Political division....

When you aren’t getting any feedback

There are many people I have talked to through coaching who don’t think they’re getting feedback at work. They’ll say things like “I never get any feedback from my manager”, “I wish I would get some more feedback”, or “They are telling me I’m doing...

Be careful the stories you tell about yourself.

Be careful the stories you tell about yourself. When you say it about you, people will instantly believe you.   The stories we tell about ourselves have a powerful impact on how others see us.  Think back on the last time someone asked how your day has been...

Birthdays, New Years, and Mondays

What do a Birthday, A New Years celebration and a Monday have in common?   For me, they’ve all happened within the last seven days.  For all of us, they are an opportunity to reflect on what we’ve accomplished and decide what we will accomplish next.   I...

The annual reset

I love a good solid routine, and a well thought out plan for getting things done.  BUT This week throw all that away!  From December 25th through January 2nd I do as little planning as possible…. Every year. Yes, I do attend pre-planned family events during this...

How is your work ethic?

  I thought I had a great work ethic.  I worked hard.  I ended every day exhausted. I felt stress about work and had a hard time unplugging from my day.  I wouldn’t stop until either the work was done or I would collapse. I thought, “I...

Thoroughfare gap

I’m a fan of a wide range of music.  On my playlists: A Stephen Stills, Thoroughfare gap, comes around pretty often.  Every time it does I think about the work I do: The work you do:  Projects.   Here are the lyrics where I’ve...

So. How do you feel about work?

Good morning on this beautiful Monday!  How’s work? I’m willing to bet when someone asks you this, many of you respond with one of these answers.  “I don’t know” “It’s been busy”  “There’s a...

I hated to be told to “think differently”!

About five years ago, I was presenting a strategy to my leadership team. The leaders in the room didn’t think the solution and the plan would provide results fast enough and they told me so. They responded to me saying, “You need to think...

Compassion

This can change everything for my beloved people pleasers.  Yes, that’s you, love.  Lets talk about compassion.  Definition of compassion: sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it...

Emotion at work

In my career, I’ve heard people say “There’s no room for emotion at work” and I have always disagreed. Emotion make us human. I believe everything a human does is because of how we think it will make us feel. We get to feel joy and sadness....

Let’s kick-start your Monday together

Until now, I have been posting my articles on Friday afternoons. I couldn’t let a Friday go by without an article, so here I am! But, todays post is a simple announcement. I’ll be adjusting my schedule so that posts will go out on Monday mornings instead...

Whisper of cultural change

Early in my career, during lunch, I walked past a couple of people and as I got closer I could hear a bit of their conversation.  One said “It’s all about”… and then their voice dropped to a whisper and their posture completely changed to somewhat of...